I explained that my husband and I just couldn't wait and we were both giddy with excitement for our ultrasound. Once the technician told us it was a boy we clenched even tighter our already gripped hands, shed a tear, and while hugging whispered to each other, "congratulations." It was so special... FOR US. That may not sound at all exciting or special to you and guess what, that's great!
I couldn't get over this gals approach to a topic that has no "right or wrong" tied to it in any way. She continued on to explain how frequently technicians get the sex wrong and stated how she didn't know why people find out in the first place. She explained that people get their hopes up for one gender and when they find out at the ultrasound they are setting themselves up for disappointment. Oi. This was about the time I wanted to walk away from this conversation all together. And that's just what I did!
If I was more of a confrontational person I may have had the guts to tell her there is nothing wrong with "hoping" for a specific gender. It doesn't make you a bad person or parent. Some of us envision our family looking a certain way, so what! I have known many people that ended up with the opposite of what they were "hoping" for and I never once heard them express a shred of disappointment! Once they found out they embraced their gift and knew it was meant to be. There is no shame in hoping for a specific gender, it's human nature.
It still gets my blood pumping just thinking about it! Only because it was so ridiculous. I have strong opinions about things but I'm not the type of person to shove it down people's throats. Especially to people that I don't even know and especially not about decisions that are so personal and special to the parties that are making them. Since becoming a mom I've discovered there are so many things to debate, scrutinize and judge each other about. It really is a shame because we are all in this together. As parents we are presented with similar joys and triumphs, obstacles and dilemmas and although we may address them differently there still exists a commonality. So lets be kind to one another and although it is perfectly fine to disagree with the decisions of other people, be mindful of when and with whom you decide to vent about it.
Did you find out the sex of your baby? If you are pregnant will you find out? What are your reasons to wait or to find out at the ultrasound?