- Start a food journal - Big fat, FAIL. I don't know why I thought this would work for me. I've never been good with this and I have tried before.
- Move my body - I have been walking my little heart out when I can. I average 40 minutes or more around the neighborhood but I can only get in 20-30 minutes on lunch breaks at work. I'm probably only walking about 3-4 days a week and I'm sure I'm not burning enough calories to start losing weight.
- I will not depend on my husband to hold my hand - I'm doing good on this one. I really want to have the power to make changes on my own and not rely on someone to carry me through. This is very important to me for some reason...
- Learn how to handle my stress better - I saw a quote somewhere that "stress is a choice." That really resonated with me and I am trying to break some of my cycles in this regard.
- Be kind to myself - Easier said than done. Like stress, my self-talk is very conditioned within my psyche. I need to break that habit as well.
I'm not just on a mission to get healthy and lose weight, although that is the ultimate goal, I am truly attempting to change my behavior in order to break some "bad" habits.
noun - an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.
I am attempting to change some big things about myself that have become second nature to me. They have become involuntary. I had a wonderful session with my therapist this week. She really helped me to define what it is I am trying to accomplish here. Just so you know a little bit more about me, I am the type of person that will give and bend and comply with everyone around without ever considering how it is effecting me. I put others first and often times at a detriment to my well being. I live my life constantly tense, stressed, on edge and always trying to control situations so that I can cater to the people around me. I don't say what's on my mind, I say what I think you want to be on my mind. I'm not always my authentic self, I am a tailored version of myself.
It is time to break my habits. So, how will I do this??? My therapist explained that there are three parts to a habit: 1) the cue 2) the behavior 3) the reward. My goal is to recognize the cues so that I can alter my behavior. For example: I've had a busy and challenging day at work and I can feel the stress setting in - that is my cue. The old behavior would be to eat something because I was stressed out. Because I was reacting emotionally to my stress the things I would eat were most likely NOT a healthy snack. I'd swipe a cookie that we leave out for our clients, for example.
What I hope to do is recognize that the components of my day have left me feeling stressed so maybe I should step outside for a few minutes to clear my head while at the office or exercise after work to sweat out the stress. The reward will be that I am no longer feeling tense and that I just did something positive for myself. The rewards don't have to be something tangible they can simply be a feeling of contentment, pride and accomplishment. That sounds like a good reward to me!
By breaking my habits and being in tune with my cues and my behaviors I will be one step closer to being the best me that I can be!
Do you have any behavioral habits that you would like to break? Have you had success overcoming a habit that was negative for you?